I recently read the blog post of a friend. She writes of her daughter, most recently the death of her daughter. I knew this sweet, charming girl and feel deeply for the loss her family suffered.
As I read, I experienced a resurgence of my own grief for the loss of my husband but also deeply grieve for them. No parent should outlive their children and to loose one without warning is a shock so great…How do we survive that? Standing out in her writing along with tremendous grief and love is regret.
Regret is a part of life but it is something we can minimize and my friend truly has little to regret. Her life with her daughter, with her family, is one of deep love and extraordinary caring.
I started to write this for me as a way to release the tension created as again I grieve but I find it is more for my friend – a reassurance that she should have no regrets. She, her husband and their other daughter could not possibly have loved or cared for the lost daughter better.